Father’s Day is almost here, a time when we consider our relationship with our father or avoid doing so. Our father may be known to us or unknown, living or dead, emotionally distant or readily accessible. We must take stock, perhaps for his sake, certainly for our own.
Here are questions worth our attention.
Did I experience support from my father? What form did it take? What healthy memories do I have? (If your father is still alive, ask these questions also in the present tense.)
You may recall your father’s flaws. You may be need to forgive him. Or that may not be possible yet.
Some additional questions.
If the relationship was troubled, how can I address the wound that is left? How can doing so make me better able to relate to my own children or anyone that I mentor?
Because no human father is perfect, many of us feel a deep father hunger. You are far from alone in this regard.
Father’s Day is a time to celebrate the imperfect goodness of countless fathers and also recognize that God is the one father who never disappoints us.
The Rev. Charles Hoffacker is a retired priest of the Diocese of Washington